Boundaries, love, time

After listening to a radio broadcast, I thought I'd extend these three main emotional needs to my followers. I believe in positive parenting ("yes you may hit the ball, let's go outside instead") but, BUT there is a defined line you can't cross.

I want to help you understand the three values before I get into greater detail. Boundaries: set expectations, limits, and goals that are clearly set in stone for your child. It's vital that these are never swayed, pushed aside, or written off entirely. The best way to do this is to create a family plan early on. Go over what you expect a walk in a parking lot to look like, for example. Cause and effect (if you dint hold my hand or the cart, you could get hit by a car. That would hurt and make mommy sad.)
Love: I on very rare occasions will tell my child I'm sad at him. I will never, ever say I don't love him. He needs to know through failures and success that I am a solid rock of support for him. We hug, snuggle, and give kisses. Showing your child you love him even through frustration sets him up for such success in the real world!
Time: I never (ok sometimes) expect immediate results. He needs time to reach goals, learn new things, and to become a good person. It's huge not to let what's happening today effect the big picture. They are your most important investment! Give THEM your time. Laundry can wait! Your child is only this age for today!

Ok. Depth time. I struggle when I see parents who do not follow through. Parents who are so rushed there children are crying out for love and time and it's ignored. I can almost see there little hearts melting and hardening against their parents. How are they shaping these kids? It makes me flash back to those kids in school, the bullies. The rich kids with 90 hour week patents, and no respect for anything. Sure, they might be CEOs one day of higher up companies and working as much as there parents, but what gifts are they giving to society? What kids will they raise.

I might be bias here. I could be completely wrong, but I believe who you are defines you more than what you do. I'm raising my children to be loving, considerate, attentive, respectful adults who are genuine. I want them to be independent, righteous as humanly possible, and worldly. I want then to value life more than material, and to seek out opportunities that will benefit them. These may not be your goals. That's fine! But, this is the way to reach you Childs inner soul. Parent there hearts, not there minds!